Facts About Cornhole

Cornhole is a game that has been played for a very long time now. Though its popularity may have decreased in the recent years, it still remains to be one of the simplest yet very fun games of all time. This game is played by many people in different countries. Many people loved it since it could be played by anyone and can be played in many different places with enough space. The materials used for the game is not that hard to find and can even be made by the players themselves if they want to. It is ideal for different occasions such as birthday parties, team events, and even a regular gathering of friends and family members. Even if you have not heard or tried this game, you can easily learn it. Rules are relatively simple much like other corn toss games and games like horseshoe and washer toss. Children will definitely have a great time playing it as well as adults.

The game is played by 2 opposing players or teams. A special platform is made for this game which is has an angle of inclination of about 45 degrees and has a hole. 2 platforms are placed on opposite sides and a string may or may not connect them together. The distance between the 2 platforms would depend on the players’ preference but they are usually around 15 to 20 feet apart. Each team would have 4 all weather bean bags each which are filled with corn kernels. Players take turn in throwing all their bags. If the bag goes inside the hole, the player who threw it will be given 3 points. If the bag does not go inside the hole but remains at the top of the platform, it is considered as 1 point. If the bag settles at the edge of the platform, the platform is lifted to determine whether the bag stays on top or falls off of it. No point is given if the bag falls off the platform.

In order to win the game, a team must score 21 points. A round is over when each team throws one bag each. In a round, the total score that is given to a team is the difference of the points gained by each team. For example in round 1 team A scored 3 points and team B scored 1 point, 2 points will be awarded to team A for that particular round. This game is usually played in a lawn but it could also be played in other venues which have sufficient space. It is great for team building activities and parties as well. It would also be ideal if you want to pass time with your friends.

Cornhole is a type of game that will be loved by future generations. Though it is old and simple, it is very fun to play. It is a great alternative to video games and it is also a way to have quality time with people who are special to you.

Ultimate Tips for Safe Summer Swimming

 Swimming  is the ultimate summer activity and you have likely already discovered that your kids turn into little fish the moment that school lets out for break. While they only notice the fun involved with a splash in the pool, you know that their safety is the first priority. As your kids don their goggles and swimsuits, use these tips to ensure that everyone stays safe in the water this season.

Have Safety Equipment Available

Life jackets are a must when your kids go  swimming . However, many parents overlook other essential pieces of safety equipment that should be near every body of water. At a new  swimming  pool, make sure reaching and throwing equipment is easily accessible along with a well-stocked first-aid kit. Supervising adults should also have a cell phone nearby to contact emergency services if a need arises.

Watch the Weather

Summer storms are unfortunately common in many parts of the country, so it is important to keep an eye on the forecast. Teach your kids to exit the pool immediately at the first sign of lightning. Your kids should also understand to never go  swimming  in natural bodies of water during a storm since water levels can quickly rise to dangerous levels.

Protect Delicate Skin

Kids love summer but a nasty sunburn can ruin their fun for several weeks. Unfortunately, they will likely forget to reapply sunscreen periodically during their  swimming  sessions without a reminder. Set a timer if necessary and follow the instructions on the sunscreen regarding how often to apply it after exposure to water. For extra protection, try to minimize  swimming  sessions during the hottest part of the day, and shower after  swimming  to remove chlorine from skin since it can cause a rash on sensitive individuals.

Practice  Swimming  at Summer Camp

When it comes to  swimming , professionally taught lessons are essential for your child’s safety. At summer camp, kids get the opportunity to  swim  every day and sometimes even twice a day. They also have the ability to  swim  in either a heated indoor pool or a natural lake so they are comfortable in different types of  swimming  conditions. Since lifeguards and coaches at camp are trained in CPR and First-Aid and are always there to supervise the kids, this is one of the safest ways to learn to  swim .

Follow Posted Safety Signs

Whenever your child visits a new  swimming  facility, take a few minutes to help them become familiar with the safety rules. For example, signs warning not to dive should be taken seriously because the water may be too shallow for head-first diving. At water parks, kids should follow the posted guidelines regarding age and size limitations before playing on slides and other aquatic rides.

 Swimming  offers many benefits for kids including the opportunity to engage in physical activity while socializing with friends. In all the excitement, however, kids can sometimes lose sight of safety as they splash and play in the water. By making sure to review the safety rules with your kids, and maintaining their skills through supervised  swimming  opportunities, you can be certain that your kids are safe as they enjoy their favorite summer activity.

The Gaming Classroom: The Overly-Hyped Educational Video Game – Part 1 of 3

Video games, video games, video games. Everyone plays video games. On the TV, on the computer, on the iPhone, iPad, and basically any device that has a screen. I see it everywhere. In New York City where I live, I see adults playing video games on their phones in the subway going to and from work. You can’t text or make phone calls down in the subway, so you might as well play video games to pass the time. Or so that’s the way it appears to me.

We are creating a species of the human race that have learned to spend most of its leisure time, and time in between other more important responsibilities, to playing games. What about a conversation with your neighbor, or paying attention to your surroundings, or “collecting” your thoughts? These simple aspects of life have been replaced with a new past time called gaming.

Gaming is so ubiquitous that it has already entered the education system as a technique for learning and improving student’s test scores.

Gaming In The Classroom

It’s not new that video games have entered the education system. But the tide has certainly turned and is beginning an uncontrollable flood into our classrooms. Children are growing up in a supposedly high tech classroom in which they are going to be increasingly more and more surrounded by games. It seems like it’s the only thing that grabs their attention these days, so the education system has decided to go with the flow and bring gaming into the classroom.

One gaming system in particular, DimensionU Educational Game Suite, created by Tabulus Digita, has made enormous strides in entering the education system and has achieved some attractive results. Or so it seems…

This article will be a 3-part series discussing the results of three different studies done using the DimensionU game suite on students K-12.

Study #1: Increased Test Scores And A Play On Words

  • A University of Central Florida study found that students who played the games demonstrated greater gain scores from pre-test to post-test (mean increase of 8.07) than students who did not play the game (mean increase of 3.74);

Wait, Not So Fast!

Certainly, I support any technology that can help students achieve higher test scores. The United States is so far behind in Math, Reading, and Science that even a small improvement is welcome.

But, I’m not satisfied with the results of the studies found above.

Let’s read into the studies more deeply. First, the University of Central Florida study used the word “mean” to describe the “average” increase in test scores. Though statisticians debate that there is a huge difference between the meaning of the two words, I will replace “mean” with “average” to make my points more clearly. By using the word “mean” in this study infers that the calculation was made by the total sum of all test scores divided by the number of tests taken. We’re basically talking about the average test scores of all the students. It’s Division 101. So, the average test score increased by 8.07% for the students who played the educational video games compared to a 3.74% average increase in test scores for the students that did not play any games.

Let’s put this into more practical terms. If we assume that students had an average test score of 75 out of 100, then the students who played the games increased to an average score of 81 compared to a 78 for the students that didn’t play games. Not bad but not great either. The truth is that most of the students had very below average grades in Math before the study even began. So in my opinion, at best the results took a “very low” student in Math and raised him/her to just a “low” student in Math. Still below-average. I would have liked to have seen the study done on students who already achieved passing grades in Math to take part in this study.

Why Video Games Are Not The Answer

Are we really going to put our faith in the future education of our children in video games? That study was done over two 9-week periods. And what the results don’t tell you unless you read the full report is that a majority of the students had extremely low grades in Math. 64% were considered “very low” in mathematical skills prior to the study. Only 4% were considered high. That means an 8% increase in math scores would still have kept these students in the “low” part of the skills category.

Teaching Laziness In The Classroom

I support any technique that increases Math scores. Certainly, these below-average students need as much help as they can get. What I fear, is that they will only learn “how to learn” with video games. I don’t want video games to become a replacement to other forms of learning that are effective but necessarily in vogue. Plus, technology has already proven to make us lazy. Do we want to teach laziness in the classroom too?

How has mankind expanded knowledge through the millennia? From learning math fundamentals through a video game system? Let’s not forget how we all arrived to this point in history. It was because some really smart people contributed ideas to society that we now get to enjoy in this modern civilization that we habitat. These “smart people” weren’t born with intelligence, they developed it through work and study.

Where Are The Hard Facts To Backup Gaming In School?

I will also mention that it has been difficult to get hard numerical data for the benefits of gaming on test scores in Math, Reading, and Science. We are still in its infancy. Let’s move forward carefully, skeptically, and deliberately. We want to remain mindful that the well-being of future generations is at stake here.

There’s Another Solution That Few Want To Pay Attention To

We’re searching for solutions in technology for all of our problems including our education system. Well, there is a solution that has been in existence for thousands of years and its benefits can easily be traced as far back as the Renaissance Period.

The solution is to learn a musical instrument. Learning how to read and play music does not break down math and reading into separate video games to learn each subject or task one and a time. Learning music stimulates both left and right hemispheres of the brain at the same time, which accelerates the building of mathematical and linguistic intelligences. I’ve been reading about how video games improve multi-tasking skills which is great, but, music has been doing this for hundreds of years. It just doesn’t have the “sexy” appeal of newer, more technological ways.

In Part 2 of this article, I will discuss in more detail the second study of DimensionU on students’ test scores, and also begin to compare the results of studying music on test scores, using hard facts and numerical data to make a clearer comparison.

How To Recognize The Symptoms Of Adult Ear Infection

While ear infections in children are common, they can still affect adults and are caused by bacteria getting inside the ear.

Cause Of Adult Ear Infection

Bacteria enters the middle ear through what is known as the eustachian tube. When this happens, infection usually occurs. The resultant infection swells the middle ear lining which in turn causes blockage in the eustachian tube. This leads to the formation of fluid build up and as it increases, can cause temporary hearing loss and pain. Unchecked, the fluid build up can reach levels pressuring the ear drum and damaging it.

While there are several reasons adult ear infection can surface such as bacteria and viruses or from the common cold, it must be noted an adult doesn’t necessarily have to be ill to become infected. Water in the ears which is left to sit or mucous deposited into the eustachian tubes from blowing the nose can lead to infection.

Adult Ear Infection Symptoms

The following are the symptoms of adult ear infection:

– blockage in the ear

– temporary hearing loss

– pain in the ear

– fever and dizziness

It’s important to see your doctor if you experience any of these symptoms especially for any length of time. Caught early, infection can be treated quite comfortably and any further complications can be halted.

Adult Ear Infection Treatment

When infection is suspected, your doctor will conduct a standard examination to confirm whether the symptoms being experienced are as a result of adult ear. Bear in mind if the initial examination is a little clouded then further tests may be required.

Bacterial related infections are treated with antibiotics. If infection is diagnosed immediately or you go in to see your doctor at the first sign of symptoms, antibiotics could be delayed. This is because in adults, improvement can occur without the use of medication.

If the situation doesn’t improve following a couple of days, then a course of antibiotics will usually be prescribed. As with the use of any antibiotic treatment, a prescribed course should be completed from start to finish.

Viral infections are a little more troublesome to treat. In fact, in some cases, minor surgery could be recommended to help dissipate the build up and drain the fluid in the ear.

While using cotton buds is usually frowned upon by the medical profession, leaving water in the ear from either showering or swimming is not a good idea. The use of an approved flush could be recommended for the ear or for the nose, nasal sprays, which have proven effective as a way of washing out bacteria.

Simple and Effective Warmers When Teaching English – Part 1

Warmers are a key ingredient to any successful English class. During a TEFL certificate course, you should be introduced to a range of warmers that you participate in but it’s easy to forget to do them once you get out there into the teaching world.

Just as an athlete stretches before embarking on a run, the student needs to warm up the language part of the brain, their mouth, tongue and as the Spanish say ‘flick the switch’. This is never more important than when the student is living in a non English speaking country and their exposure to English is limited.


Many teachers start a class with a simple discussion, which is absolutely fine, but try to focus the class so that it fits the theme or structure that you have been teaching or one you are about introduce.


Talking about what the students did at the weekend/over the Christmas break, last holiday etc ties in well when you have taught the past simple and present perfect.


Teacher: So Juan what did you do at the weekend (past simple).

Juan: I go to an Italian restaurant with my friends

Teacher: Was last weekend in the past or present Juan?

Juan: The past. Ah, okay. I went to an Italian restaurant with my friends.

Teacher: Well done. I love Italian food. Have you been there before? (present perfect)

Juan: Yes, I have been there once before. I like it very much.

And so the conversation continues with the teacher guiding the conversation to exploit the relevant structures.

If you are about to introduce the second conditional you might want to discuss with the students what they would do if they won a million Euros. As you have not taught the structure yet, it does not matter if they make mistakes as to how they express themselves as this will come later but it will be great to refer back to as the class progresses.

Any topic or structure can be tied into a warmer with a bit of thought.

The photograph game

If the group is new, many teachers start a class with ‘tell me about yourself’. It rarely ever gets an enthusiastic response. There are two main reasons for this, firstly students have often had lots of different teachers, all of whom ask the same question – you can therefore understand their lack of enthusiasm. Secondly, the students don’t know you yet and why should they therefore open up to you?

For intermediate (B2) and above levels the photograph game can be fun and engaging warmer which helps the students get to know you and their fellow classmates. Depending on the group size you might want to present from 1-4 photos.

You show the students a blank piece of paper. You then tell that this is a photograph that you would like to share with them. It can be of anything you want but try to make it a real memory.


“This is a photo of me in Thailand. I went there 3 years ago with my friends – you can see my friends in the background just next to the trees – can you seem them? It was a beautiful day; the sun is starting to set behind me. You can see the amazing colours of the sun set, reds, golden yellows, dark oranges etc. We had just been for a   swim  and you can see the sea behind me. Afterwards we had dinner on the beach and it was a wonderful day”.

You then invite each student to show their photo and explain the story behind it.

What is great about this is that you and the students will focus on the paper rather than the person, which makes people feel more at ease. It forces the student to use their imagination, adjectives and tenses. It will help you to evaluate the students and how they perform orally. The student tends to like it as they are in control of what information they share with you. Finally it gives you insights into topics for the future that the students are interested in, sports, travel, family and so on.

The star game

If the students have a lower level, the star game can be a simple and effective warmer for a first class. You draw a star on the board and at each point write some information about yourself.


Natasha, Madrid, England 36, chocolate, blue

You then say:

My name is Natasha

I live in Madrid

I am from England

I am 36 years old

I like chocolate

My favourite colour is blue

Each student then completes the star and shares their information with the class.

As with any element of teaching English, how you model the first go sets the standard and the ‘how to’ for the students. If you are not enthusiastic, you can’t expect them to be. If you are not creative, giving etc, the same applies.

Stay tuned for more warmers in part 2.

Disadvantages of Watching Pornography

In the olden days, the word ‘addiction’ was largely confined to either dependence on substance (addiction to drugs) or behavioral addiction (gambling). Addiction can be defined as the repetition of a habit which an individual does with his/her complete knowledge. In other words, they clearly know and understand that they have to leave the particular habit of either ingesting a substance or performing a specific action, but cannot refrain from doing the same. The habit may prove harmful in the long run as it might lead to compulsive use.

Pornography can be found in various forms such as books, postcards, photographs, drawing, animation, film, video (video games). Before two decades, if an individual has to watch porn, he has to rent out a video. Although growth of internet has brought many advantages, there are also few exceptions like porn, which any one can access by a single click.

As with all addictions, individuals of all ages share this vice of pornography, they usually start with soft porn. Similar to drugs, they will also need larger doses to make them feel high. They will start searching for more explicit porn content. Although no survey has been done to clarify the factor from small to high dosage, it cannot be ruled out that watching porn leads to negative effects in many cases such as:

Addicts feel isolate, spend large amount of time locked in their rooms or own world. Watching pornography individually separates them from social contact dissolving into a fantasy world far from reality. Pornographic addicted individuals may indulge in imagination with multiple partners by watching porn thus causing disillusionment in family lives.

Men, who are addicted, try to become dominant, introvert, deal with anxiety, and develop low self esteem. Porn makes the real universe and world boring leaving its viewers dissatisfied and less sensitive to the emotional feelings of everyday life. According to a survey, men exposed to large volume of pornography tend to be less responsible in their career and suffer from reasoning ability.

Men who view pornography in a very young age have been found to view women only as objects of desire than to have respect for them as human beings. They can also suffer from guilt, shame, failure of rejection or humiliation.

The best way to overcome the addiction is to become socially active. Isolation and loneliness are said to be the main contributing factors. Addicts who have been given proper professional guidance and assistance have overcome and conquered their habit of watching porn.

10 Facts About the Adult Bullying Mindset

1. Bullies will take any slight, real or imagined and use it as a weapon against their victims. Another favorite trick is where a bully invents a crime and accuses the victim of committing it.

2. Bullies are convincing liars and are adept at getting innocent people to do their dirty work. Often, the innocent party has does not see the manipulation.

3. Bullies will form alliances with anyone who will help them attain their aims. Later, they can turn on their former ally at the blink of an eye.

4. When confronted, a bully may tell those in power that your experiences are false. Just as you cannot prove (in a one-on-one situation) what the bully says is false, neither can the bully show what you have said is untrue. It is an indefensible position.

5. The purpose of the bully is to cause psychological damage and mental suffering.

6. If you are dealing with a workplace bully, know this: In over 75% of situations, the targeted individual leaves. No matter how much you love or value your job, it is not worth it to fight a bully. The psychological damage can be devastating over time.

7. It is important to know that a bully is not a normal human being. They get off on the fight, and anything you do to fight back is fuel for the bully. They love the conflict and want it to continue.

8. In many publications, you will discover that the bully suffers from one or more types of personality disorders.

9. The effects of bullying are far worse than most people realize, especially in childhood.

10. The bully has a mindset where they must win at all costs. I wound up dealing with a bully in Mexico who stole my damage deposit. I fought back.

At one point, the bully was chasing me with three lawyers. When it came time to agree to give me my money back, he sent me a legal document, which was full of blackmail and extortion. I refused to sign it, and this infuriated the bully.

Around the same time, I learned the only way to win was to lose, which meant to walk away and never return. I did that, and the bully screamed at me through email for months, before he quit. A year later, he returned and tried to lure me back into the fight. I ignored him, and he finally gave up.

The bottom line is this, if you want to recover from the trauma of bullying, you MUST get the bully out of your life. If you do not, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to recover.

When the Bully is No Longer in Your Life

For some people, getting the bully out of their lives is enough and they will begin to recover. Others have been traumatized by the ongoing harassment which has caused a psychological injury, sometimes known as PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

If this has happened to you, you know you’re in trouble. Fortunately, help exists. I work with Hamish Bayston, a coach who specializes in working with victims of bullying. With his coaching, you can remove the trauma of bullying from your life, change your limiting beliefs, stop the obsessive thinking and begin to live a normal life, free of the trauma of bullying.

Get Baby to Sleep at Night With This Simple Tip

One very effective method for getting your baby to sleep can be keeping him awake after meals.

As any Thanksgiving will show, people generally get sleepy after eating. This happens because your blood sugar levels change and because your body pushes blood to your stomach, thus taking it away from your brain. Babies are no different.

However, letting babies fall asleep after eating creates a bad habit – it unconsciously forms a routine of only being able to fall asleep after eating. In the beginning this might not be an issue, but think about a few months from now. Do you want to have to feed baby every time she wakes up?

So what do you do instead? The secret to resetting baby’s clock and keeping her from needing you to fall back asleep is to keep her active after meals. Keep activity gentle, as you don’t want to cause her any discomfort, but be active.

Here are some great example activities to get you started:

o Play with building blocks or other simple educational toys

o Dance together, with parent holding baby and some upbeat music in the background

o Read a story together

o Do tactile games, where you are touching baby or helping her touch something

Avoid activities like these:

o Putting baby in a stroller and taking her around with you

o Watching TV together

o Putting baby in a crib or playpen to entertain herself

Use these activities to reverse a baby’s order from Eat, Sleep, Play to Eat, Play, Sleep. Doing so helps make baby independent from you and empowers her to fall asleep again on her own when she wakes in the middle of the night.

Why should you avoid the activities listed above? These aren’t really activities at all; they aren’t physical with baby, and may allow her to fall asleep even if you don’t want her to. Stick to activities that require baby to engage. The more senses you can incorporate, the better.

What if baby is already used to eating before sleep? Breaking the cycle is a process, not a one-day solution, so be patient. We will talk about this later in the guide, but a good way to transition baby from the routine of falling asleep while feeding or just after feeding is to ensure that she is awake in her crib.

If she falls asleep, lay her down, then wake her up. Don’t get her fully awake, but make sure she is awake, so that she can feel the sensation of falling asleep again on her own, already lying down. The purpose of this is so that she knows she can fall asleep without you. Again, more on this later.

Action Items:

o Brainstorm activities for post-feeding times

o Plan your day so that there is time for activity after eating

o If baby is already accustomed to sleeping after eating, set a schedule for yourself to wean her away from it within 2 weeks. Be strong and stick to the schedule!

How to Have Optimal Health and Energy – Seven Key Steps

You have my respect for taking action to learn how to improve your overall health. You can discover and learn how to do just that…change and improve your health… and enjoy the new levels of energy and vitality that will simply come your way.

I have identified seven keys that can and will improve your health and energy.

The seven keys that I share with you are not meant to be understood in a literal, “This is the most important key, and this is the second most important key,” manner, or practiced in a linear fashion. Rather, these are dynamic principles, beliefs, values, behaviors, etc that work together simultaneously and synergistically.

With that said, here are the seven keys!

Health And Energy Key # 1:

Begin With A Well-Formed Outcome

Simply put, your brain and your mind (conscious and unconscious) are “outcome focused,” by nature. You will always be using your brain and your mind to be moving toward an end target, a goal, a desired outcome…so choose each one wisely.

Now, when you think of something, anything, such as your health, keep your mind on what you desire, and off of what you do not desire. And the key to keeping your mind off of what you do not desire is to…keep it on what you do desire! Period. See, hear and feel that which reflects what you desire. If you get off track, away from what you desire, to what you do not desire, simply bring your mind (your pictures, sounds and feelings-more on this later) back to what you desire.

Some individuals might find it challenging at times to craft a well-formed outcome because of conflicting beliefs that need to be “cleaned up.” More on that later.

Health And Energy Key # 2:

Create and Maintain A Useful State

You are always creating and entering into, and operating out of, a “state…” a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical state. You have no doubt heard someone say, “I am in a really good mood.” Or, “She is in a really good frame of mind today!” When I use the word “state,” I am describing what is going on with you on mental, emotional, spiritual and physical levels…your total being.

Now, if you get anything out of this article, get this, and you will be ahead of the game: Never plan your future, or begin to solve a problem, or do anything, without first ensuring that you are in a useful, appropriate state for the outcome you are going for. Period.

Remember at time when you were in a conflict with someone you love, perhaps even with yourself! Did it help matters if you were in a less than useful state? By “less than useful state” I mean, one that is composed of, say, impatience, irritability, cynicism, lack of empathy, “I want to be right,” etc? What might have been the difference if instead, you had created and entered into a state that is composed of perhaps patience, caring about the best interest of the other person, curiosity, flexibility, creativity, genuine self-regard, etc?

Now, this article cannot fully coach you how to do that. You might want to have one individual coaching session to learn how to easily do what I am describing. You can also practice doing the following so you can enjoy learning how to create a useful state for yourself.: Imagine that your desired outcome is to persuade someone to your point of view on a matter. Now, remember a time when you communicated very effectively and got your outcome of someone being persuaded to your perspective. Imagine seeing a movie of that experience, and then “step into” the movie you are watching, and relive that experience for 30 seconds or more.

Now, step out of that movie, and remember a time when you were communicating with someone and you were very patient with that person, taking the time to really hear them out and to understand them on a superb level. Make a movie of that, and step into that! Then step out of it and remember a time when you were communicating with someone or a group of people and you demonstrated great flexibility to the point of reaching your outcome! Whatever “obstacle” came up, you were flexible in responding resourcefully to it. Now step into that movie…

You get the idea, right? This is one easy way to build a useful state for reaching any desired outcome.

Again, always make sure that you are in a useful state, one that is appropriate for easily and enjoyable reaching your desired outcome.

Health And Energy Key # 3:

Invest Yourself In Healthy And Rewarding Relationships

The people that you surround yourself with, those you let into your space, will affect you on all levels. It is as simple as that. Choose wisely. Perhaps it is time for you to let go of some relationships and to begin some new relationships. You are not doing anyone a favor by allowing them to adversely affect you over a period of time. That is not love, it is something else.

Know what you want from your relationships. Learn how to communicate with those around you, especially your loved ones, in such a manner that you effectively enhance the quality of your relationships, for all concerned. Learn to master the states you are in! When it comes to powerfully effective communication, the state you are in will be paramount. In your communication, be clear and be effective. Communicating effectively with yourself and others is the greatest single skill you can learn and develop. Invest your time, money and energy in doing so and you will be rewarded beyond what you are capable of currently imagining.

Health And Energy Key # 4:

Be Flexible

“Flexibility is the key!” The key to what? The key to achieving your outcome, the key to persuasive communication, the key to rewarding relationships. Flexibility is being able to do something different if what you are doing is not getting you the results you desire. Flexibility will get you to where you want to go with your health and energy. If what you have been doing has not gotten you the health and energy you want yet, do something else! You might be aware that there is no one “diet” or exercise program that is useful for everybody. You can find and use what will work for you…for now. And you can be flexible and change what you are doing as you find what works even better for you, moment by moment.

Health And Energy Key # 5:

Place Your “Health And Energy” As One Of Your Top “Life Values”

Tragically, “health and energy” is rarely a top value with most people. And I say “tragically” because of the fact that your values will drive your behaviors, and your behaviors will drive the results you create. So, it follows, that to engage in healthier behaviors, you will need to make sure that your health and energy is one of your top values. If you want to learn how to easily change your values, to actually choose which ones you want to drive your behaviors, you can do so in one coaching session. You will then have the ability and the tools to prioritize your values as you move through life. Remembering that your values will drive your behaviors. What is that worth?

Health And Energy Key #6:

Personal Congruency

“Congruency” is when your beliefs, values, behaviors, emotions and states are all lined up… and going in the same direction! You can easily understand how important this is. If for example, on one hand, you believe that you can greatly improve your health and energy, and on the other hand, you believe that doing so is not really possible, or that it would be quite difficult and unpleasant…well you can see the conflict, and you probably would feel the conflict as well. The stress that these two conflicting beliefs generate is unnecessary and can be eliminated with the appropriate tools and skill set.

Much energy is dissipated because of incongruent values and beliefs, not to mention incongruent behaviors! And when you learn how to “clean things up” and develop more congruency, you will immediately enjoy the results in your health and energy. Doing so is worth your investment, whatever that might be for you.

Health And Energy Key #7:

Design Your Life With Wisdom

And what is wisdom? It is contemplating and understanding the consequences of your choices and behaviors, not just for the immediate future, but for the distant future as well!

Now, my experience as a psychotherapist and Life and Business Coach has taught me that consistent improvement is more reliable than the so called overnight successes that you hear about from time to time.

Your health and energy…your overall well being, are all worth your patience! Because it is far better to take small and incremental steps into increased vigor, health and energy, than to take on too much, too soon. Your body and mind will thank you for exercising wisdom. An effective personal trainer said in an interview that “Most people try to do too much, too soon, get discouraged and then throw in the towel.”

It can be different for you. Be flexible enough to find out what works for you, in what increments, and then move forward with patience. Your patience and persistence will take you to your desired outcome of greater health and energy. Period. Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? Enough said. And if it isn’t… remember that Rome was not built in a day. Or a month for that matter. And yet progress began with the first action taken, and continued with each step after that. Each step brings more of what was desired.

How Safe Are You and Your Family Online?

What do the following five online activities have in common?

1. I download and swap music files

2. I visit chat rooms

3. I play online games

4. I buy and sell on eBay

5. I’m researching my family tree

They are not only five of the most common activities that people do online they are also potentially the most dangerous as they expose you to the real risks posed by scam artists, stalkers and worse that look for new victims each and every day.

Are you truly aware of the hidden dangers that lurk online waiting to strike at the unwary? I’m prepared to wager that you’re not. It’s far more likely that you’ll be as blissfully unaware as everyone else perhaps with that mix of ignorance and arrogance that “nothing can happen to you” that makes you an ideal victim!

Perhaps you also think that online security is a bit of an urban myth that has been blown out of all proportion by the media and companies selling security software. Unfortunately, there is a world of stalkers, scam artists and even terrorists working to their own agenda and that agenda includes you or your family.

Luckily, there’s something you can do about it right now – but first let’s look at what really lurks behind these seemingly innocent activities.

1. I download and swap music files

If you’re caught in the culture of the internet that is a grey area at the best of times and you think that “everything online should be free” and that there’s “nothing wrong with peer-to-peer networks” you face some real dangers and not from record companies looking for royalties!

As soon as you step into such a grey area you put yourself more at risk then normal because the scammers and fraudsters know that you can’t really complain without revealing your own illegal behaviour. The same is true of cons linked to dubious websites as they know you’re vulnerable.

The nature of such networks is equally worrying as they permit anyone to connect to your computer with the aim of swapping a music or video file. If you look at it as the equivalent of leaving your front door open to the person delivering a pirated DVD and you should become more alarmed.

The truth is that many people often get more then they bargained for as viruses and spyware can also be included with that new track.

These can cause you untold problems with the worst being one’s that you only find out about when it’s too late. It’s only when the letters start arriving from the bank that you discover that a trojan or spyware has copied everything you’ve typed, including your user name and passwords to every account you’ve accessed and sent them unseen to the hacker who is busy stealing your identity and running up huge debts in your name.

2. I visit chat rooms

You face several dangers when you enter public chat rooms. Not everyone will be who they seem to be and some have extremely distasteful agendas such as recruiting people to their cause, propaganda and stalkers.

Stalkers are not the figment of the imagination of an over zealous media they do exist and target the vulnerable online. They hide behind several identities that they have carefully crafted to select and test their victims. These are not only children that they are grooming for abuse but also adults that are threatened, conned, blackmailed and manipulated into handing over financial information.

If that wasn’t enough there are also representatives from what most would consider to be sick sites in chat rooms and on forums recruiting more to their cause. These include political groups of both extremes, religious groups including fronts for terrorism and well deviants such as “pro-ana” sites that teach young impressionable girls that “being thin is more important that being healthy”!

3. I play online games

Playing games online may seem a harmless activity but it’s that impression that can put you at risk as you will be off your guard. Game downloads can contain spyware, especially those to unlock pirate copies and stalkers inhabit gaming chat rooms.

4. I buy and sell on eBay

There are the obvious problems of eBay where trust in a buyer or seller can sadly be misplaced including a recent case when a gang stole huge amounts of money from thousands of bidders by demanding payment in cash or electronic cash transfer and then sent nothing in return.

You are also open to many more dangers. You will receive false or “phishing” emails claiming to be both from eBay and Paypal suggesting that if you don’t check your details immediately your account will be frozen. If you fall for this con that is carried out on an industrial scale you could not only give away your account details but also your credit card number as well.

5. I’m researching my family tree

Carrying out research in your family tree can make you incredibly open about personal information. Details such as your mother’s maiden name and previous schools are common and invaluable to an identity fraudster looking to open or access an account in your name.

What can you do about it?

There are two things that you should do today to protect yourself, your family and your computer.

1) Go to [http://www.911stalkers.com] or [http://www.999stalkers.com] and take the free test to fully evaluate how clued up or clueless you are about online security. You can either download it as a free ebook and then email it to your friends or you can do a version online via a link at the top of the page. It is vital that you open your eyes and see the true dangers that you face each and every time you are online.

2) Do something about it. Naturally, I’d suggest my ebook Scams, Stalkers and Online Security that uses 14 real life case studies to highlight the problems and then provide step-by-step practical solutions that everyone can follow. If you decide to buy that or find your own solution then please ensure that you and your family are safe online. Doing nothing is not an option.

Tony Hetherington