Have you and your partner gone through one of those periods when the relationship, especially the sex, felt stale and in a rut? Yes, I am talking about dry spells here and they happen to even the nicest home. They are among the best-kept secrets of long-term relationships, and they are nothing to worry about. At one time or another, everybody is not doing it and it is just that, nobody is talking about it. The occasional drought is simply a fact of married life and don’t worry, this shall pass.
But do you ever feel that your current sex life is not as exciting as the sex lives of the people on TV and in the movies? Is the sex you are having disappointing, compared to the passion that you saw on the screen?
Should your sex live start to be boring and dull as ditch-water, you may want to consider the following remedies, tips from My Secret Love Making Strategy.
Satisfying Sex Life
To have a satisfying sex life, we have to think about sex in a completely different way that transcends both repression and obsession with all things sexual. The key to satisfying sex life is, knowing ourselves. This means seeing beyond cultural myths that damage and distort our sexuality, uncovering our authentic sexual desires, and developing the emotional and social skills we need to share our real selves with our partners and maximize our chances for a happy sex life.
Sustaining an enriching sexual life involves your partner. The ability to talk to them about your sexual desire and the ability to understand your partner’s sexual self and their genuine sexual feelings. Each of us has a secret sexual self that is as unique as a fingerprint. Sexual desire can be colored by past experiences and an unmet emotional needs. Once we get beyond that code of silence and we open up to our partner, this will set us free to pursue a more rewarding and intimate sex life.
Changes of Scenery
You don’t have to leave home to find them. I mean, just get out of the bedroom for a change. Of course you have to make sure that everybody else is out at that time. Changes of scenery can work wonders for those tired libidos. Try the children’s playroom floor for a start. Yeah, make love and do your stuffs amidst those Barbie Dolls and X-Men figurines. I am sure they do not mind, and you can rest assure that they will keep their mouth shut after that.
Then there is the stairway – my personal favorite, or the kitchen. Do it on top of the washing machine for example. Switch on the machine while doing it, if you like, if that what gets you more excited. Try it on the table top too. Yeah, this may sound like something out of an adult movie scene, but believe me, this is just one lesson in love making, to making love last, for life.
Think of new places for your next “adventure”. List them down. Try experiencing the excitement of doing it on different and unfamiliar surroundings? Just thinking of this will sure to get you all fired up.
If you are usually the aggressor, change your behavior, switch roles and let your partner, usually your wife, become the aggressor for a change. If that is out of her character, ask her to play the shy, blushing virgin. Use appropriate props. Wear something different. I mean, put on different uniforms each time. You can be the doctor and she the nurse. You the criminal, she the warden, you the discipline master, she the troubled student, you the plumber and she the housewife in distress, so on and so on. Do a role-play. Give your alter ego a name and refer to that name often. Vary the script and keep surprising each other.
Another idea to surprise your partner, try some new maneuvers or exotic techniques.
Try a different variety of foreplay. Variety is necessary in love, so love is to be produced by means of variety. Get a book on sexual position if you could not think of any, other than the usual.
Here are some tips.
Use your hands, feet, hair or your whole body to touch your partner and tantalize each other with different textures – feathers, silk, fur and flowers. These are so many ways to touch your lover for an erotic awakening. The only limits are your imagination.
Try other sexual positions. The sitting positions for example are amongst the best energy sharing positions. They are ideal when you have built a high sexual charge and want to move less, but feel more. In most sitting positions there is less thrusting and less movement, with the exception of occasional, active rocking action. Face each other, make eye contact and hold each other tight. Your hands are free to stimulate your partner’s breasts.
Have a sexy conversation with your partner. Share your sexual fantasy you have most often or find most arousing. Bring up previous sexual encounters both of you found especially memorable, a sort of replay of your own greatest hits. Describe a scintillating sex scene from a movie, or read one aloud from a book. Conversational intimacy leads to physical intimacy, because it stimulates the primary sex organ – the brain. It is really amazing how arousing talking about sex can be.
Live A Healthy And Fulfilling Sex Lives
The key to a great sex life is not just about the various techniques that we do in bed or in the kitchen, but rather what is going on in our minds, often without our clear awareness, while we are engaged in sexual behavior. Imagine being in bed with the most attractive, gorgeous and sexually desirable person you know. If your mind does not cooperate – because of worries about work, because you are self-conscious about your body, the sex is not going to be great.
Sex is a whole lot more than intercourse. There is setting the scene, creating harmony of minds and hearts, arousing your senses and awakening your desire. It is the man’s role to excite and stimulate his lady, to pay attention to her emotional state and make sure she is “overcome with love and desire” before you proceed to intercourse.
Far from being dangerous, sex is good for us, physically and emotionally. Feeling and acting sexual is not itself dangerous. For health reasons alone, it pays to invest time, energy and thought into having a satisfying sexual relationship. The health and psychological benefits you stand to gain make it well worth neglecting your housework, missing your favorite NBA game or foregoing the occasional poker game.