I Thought It Was Just a Nightmare, But the Nightmare Was Just Beginning!

When my son was ten months old he woke us up, screaming. I rushed to his side to comfort him believing he was just having a nightmare. I was horrified to find him crawling around his crib, banging his head on the railings. I picked him up so he would not hurt himself, but the screaming continued for another 20 minutes. I was unable to wake him up from his nightmare. Then, just as suddenly as it had begun, the screaming stopped and my son went back to sleep.

The screaming, of course, had awakened my other child who my husband went to put back to sleep. Needless to say nobody got a good night’s sleep that night. Slowly, I fell back to sleep wondering what had caused my young son to have such a nightmare. And, like most parents, we didn’t give it a lot of thought the next day. Little did we know we were about to embark on a wild ride that would last for five years.

The screaming spells happened every night for a week. They usually began about two hours after my son went to sleep and I always found him banging his head on the crib railings. I knew it was time to call our pediatrician. As soon as I described what was happening she informed me that my son was suffering from night terrors which are different from nightmares.

The pediatrician was unable to answer my questions so I turned to the internet. I was dismayed to see that there was no treatment for night terrors but every site stated that children typically outgrow the condition on their own. Not content to sit and wait for that happen, I began to keep a daily journal to determine a pattern. There was none. I would have to wait.

For the first three years after the night terrors began, they occurred almost every night. We developed a regular routine. I would make a small bed of soft blankets for him on the floor where he could not hurt himself. When he woke up screaming, I would place him in the bed and lay down next to him on the floor. At age three the night terrors decreased to three to four times a week. However, he had started walking in his sleep so we installed a baby gate in the hallway to prevent him from getting outside. Yes, he was fully capable of unlocking and opening doors. By the time he turned four the night terrors only occurred once in a while.

I finally began to allow myself to hope that the night terrors would stop altogether. I got my wish. By the age of six my son no longer had night terrors. For the first time in many years I did not have to worry whether I would be awakened in the night by those blood-curdling screams. We were all free.

Grow Taller Exercises – The Easiest Way to Increase Your Height

Grow taller exercises are a great way to get those extra inches you need. That’s what I’ve learned after using the program that changed my life. You know how guys always tend to fall in love or like girls which are shorter than they are. Well that wasn’t the case for me when I hooked up with my current girlfriend. She really likes me but I hesitated at first because she was a bit taller than me. Most guys would probably turn a taller girl than them down, but I couldn’t.

When I met her and saw that she was taller than me, I didn’t talk very much with her even though I wanted to and she seemed to like me a lot. When she wasn’t looking I would just gaze upon her good looks and wanted to be with her so bad. But a small part of my brain wouldn’t get pass the fact that she was taller and I would look weak when next to her. Instead of picking the easy way out and just not look interested in her, I picked the hard way. My only option was to get a few extra inches myself in order for us to look good together. So I started to look for something to help me get just that without having to spend loads of money. Thus I found a program with grow taller exercises which supposedly help you grow taller. The program included much more than grow taller exercises, it also had diets to follow to help stimulate the human growth hormone and how to sleep right.

Before I started, I gave the program a good read. After I saw that I could get taller, I called that girl and started talking with her. I even went out with her but we stood down most of the time and she left before me. In the meantime I began doing the exercises at home while also going swimming every day. After reading a chapter about proper food to eat, I saw that by getting a tan, you get your skin to produce vitamin D, which helps with bone growth. So I started to combine the grow taller exercises with the diet and getting a tan. That meant getting a good breakfast, then going to the beach and playing volleyball all day and swimming. It was perfect, I was hanging out with my friends while getting taller. The only part I didn’t really like was sleeping on a harder mattress without a pillow. That way my spine could rest in a straight position.

At the end of the summer, I measured myself again and saw that I gained almost 4 inches. I was so happy, not just because I got taller and I could go out with the girl of my dreams without feeling awkward, but also because I did something for myself. Instead of eating all sorts of junk food, I was eating cooked food now and lots of vegetables and fruits. I felt like those couple of months cleaned me and I was feeling great and more alive than ever. So if you want to get those extra few inches, I suggest getting some grow taller exercises.

The Pros and Cons of Children’s Party Places

The options of a venue for holding you child’s party are many. Besides your home, there are many entertainment venues available. There are pros and cons to holding a party at these venues and parents can consider the options before deciding where to hold the party. This will make sure that at the end of the day, the party for your child and his friends is a successful one and they did have a very smashing good and fun time.

Holding the party at an entertainment or event center take a lot of stress out of party planning. In fact there is practically no stress for the parent at all. The parent can view the entire package mapped out for the entire party from the food to drinks and even the party invites. The parent needs to bring so little and it looks like there is no reason for worry or stress. This is then a big plus point for holding it at a party or event center.

Of course the downside is the cost, which must be paid ahead of time and if for some reason if anything goes wrong or not according to plan, then there is the uncertainty of an unknown environment where you do not have control over with what is going on and you would have limited access to materials that could help you deal with the situation. Having in your car, medical supplies or first-aid on standby in case of emergency might help to alleviate this concern.

On the other hand, if the party is to be held at home, the parents would be able to personally limit the chance of malfunctions and even should anything goes wrong they will know what is at their disposal to remedy the situation. In addition, if your home does not have the space for a party, then having it in an event place might really be the only real option.

In many instances, your party might not be the only party taking place at the event venue on that ay. There could be other people, or even other parties enjoying the place as well, then it would be difficult for you to keep an eye on all the kids at the same time. This is especially true if the event place is like the roller skating rink. When the party is being held at home, then you know the kids are in an area familiar to you and you can keep better tag on them. So, if you are concerned about this, ask other parents to remain and help out. That will allow everyone to enjoy their time in a safe manner.

Sometimes when it comes to the choice of a venue, it is less of a question of the pros and cons of the event location and more of a question of whether or not the host has the resources to utilize effective measures when it comes to securing an event venue and safety.

New Years Eve Holiday Party – Enjoy A Fun Filled Night With These Amazing Party Tips They Love

If visions of the ball dropping to strains of Auld Lang Syne are your idea of a typical New Years’ eve, you probably don’t need any help deciding how to celebrate or what to do for your own New Years’ eve holiday party. If, however, you are celebrating with children or have something different in mind, you might want to take advantage of these helpful tips and suggestions.

Most New Years Eve celebrations are focused on adult entertainment, but children enjoy making this holiday special as well. Depending on the ages of the children who are going to be present, festivities can be adapted to make this a very enjoyable holiday for everyone.

o A Sleep-over is the perfect choice for a New Years’ Eve party when kids are present. That way, there will be no pick up or drop off duty during the wee hours, and if the partiers fall asleep before the clock strikes midnight, there is no harm done

o Make invitations by writing all your pertinent party information and any special instructions (such as asking each guest to bring a pillow and sleeping bag) on a transparent, inflated balloon, insert some confetti, and deflate to place into an envelope.

o Ask parents to RSVP to allow you to plan well for your party. Most will be more than happy to do so, because they will probably have plans of their own, and you are likely to be the most popular parent in your circle for providing the babysitting.

o Plan a combination of party activities including both quiet and rousing activities. The guests will need activities to allow them to burn off energy and activities that allow them quiet time after then begin to get tired.

o Plan a craft that will double as a party favor commemorating the New Year. For example, have a craft table set up (White butcher paper on a kitchen table does double duty as a craft table) with odds and ends like bits of lace, glitter, paint pens, fabric paint, yarn, buttons, fabric glue, etc. Purchase a plain pillowcase for each guest, and allow them to decorate their own pillowcase. Put the date, and “Happy New Year” or “Goodbye 2007” and let them put handprints or write their names on everyone’s pillow. Then, when they start to wind down for the evening, putting their dried, decorated pillowcase on their own pillow will get them in the right frame of mind to sleep.

o Have plenty of drinks and snacks available, make sure each child knows where the bathroom is, and leave a light on or give each child a dollar shop flashlight with their name on it, to help light the way, and last, have serve yourself breakfast foods you can put out the night before, like fruits, muffins, and juice boxes, and be very firm on what time the kids should be picked up on New Year’s Day!

Interview with Barbara Sinor, Author of "Gifts from the Child Within"

Today, we are pleased to be joined by Dr. Barbara Sinor who is here to talk about her book “Gifts From the Child Within: Self-discovery and Self-recovery Through Re-Creation Therapy, 2nd Edition,” Loving Healing Press (2008), ISBN 9781932690460.

Dr. Sinor has maintained a private counseling practice for over twenty-five years. She counsels individuals exploring the healing and recovery of Addictions, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, childhood abuse/incest, adult children of alcoholics, and codependent/self-esteem issues. Dr. Sinor’s first book, coauthored with her sister Paula Slater is “Beyond Words: A Lexicon of Metaphysical Thought” which was written right after they received their Master of Arts degrees together. Sinor’s second book is “Gifts From the Child Within” which is a recovery workbook written for both survivors of childhood abuse or trauma of any kind and the counselors who work with this population. This is the book we will be exploring today.

In 2003, Dr. Sinor wrote a follow-up book titled “An Inspirational Guide for the Recovering Soul.” This inspirational book is a companion guidebook for further growth and understanding of the personal healing and recovery process that can be used by anyone dealing with past or present trauma. More recently in 2007, Dr. Sinor completed a manuscript coauthored with Deborah McCloskey entitled “What’s Really Going On? Questioning Our View of Addiction.” Currently, she is working on her fifth book “Tales of Addiction” which documents personal stories from those who have been or are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol, or those whose life has been affected by addiction through friends and family.

Dr. Sinor received her Doctorate in Psychology at the Southern California University for Professional Studies in 1997. She received her Master of Arts degree in John F. Kennedy University’s Graduate School for the Study of Human Consciousness majoring in Transpersonal Counseling Psychology. She graduated with honors from Pitzer College receiving her Bachelor of Arts degree with a double major in Sociology and Women’s Studies and she has been a clinical hypnotherapist since 1987.

Tyler: Welcome, Barbara. I’m honored to have you join me today. Will you begin by telling me why you chose to write “Gifts From the Child Within?”

Barbara: After several years of counseling individuals in my practice, I noticed a common theme in a large percentage of my clients. The issue of childhood trauma kept showing itself as the underlying concern and ultimately became the focus of treatment. When I began introducing a healing hypnosis technique I called Re-Creation Therapy to my counseling methodology, my clients responded with a positive recovery. I then decided to capture many of these healing stories and introduce my efforts and my clients’ experiences in a book.

Tyler: Barbara, your book is really about inner child therapy. Will you explain to our readers a little bit about what inner child therapy is and how it can be effective?

Barbara: The concept of the inner child is not new by any means. Both Carl Jung and Eric Berne, two noted therapists, cited in their work this motif of the inner child. In the 1980s, Charles Whitfield and many others drew much acclaim by “introducing” the child within personality in us all. Basically, inner child therapy addresses the issues surrounding negative childhood trauma.

Because of my own personal background of dealing with childhood trauma, I experimented with several types of inner child therapy but found most left me feeling empty. When working with your child within there is a necessary step of releasing anger, sometimes repressed anger, and negative feelings associated with traumatic events. What the techniques of Re-Creation Therapy provide is a way of re-framing or re-creating the trauma so the emptiness becomes a pathway to healing and recovery.

Tyler: Barbara, would you tell us a little bit about the method you use to release anger and how it may differ from other types of inner child therapy?

Barbara: Anger can be one of our personal life saboteurs, even if we are unaware that we are holding on to angry emotions such as in repressed anger. Sometimes anger can give us a sense of false power by thinking we are controlling another or a situation, however, just the opposite is true. When we cling to angry feelings toward someone that person is the one in control of our emotions. In order to come to a place of peace with a past negative experience or person, it becomes necessary to release feelings of anger. To do this therapists have creatively devised many techniques to help guide their clients. To me using only “talk therapy” to this purpose is not enough. I have utilized many methods including hypnosis, creative art projects, journaling, physical exercise, meditation, rituals, spiritual practices, reading and writing assignments, and referrals to professionals for various holistic treatments.

Tyler: Barbara, I know you are also concerned with codependent and self-esteem issues. Will you explain a little bit about what codependency is-I understand it is often developed in childhood but can result in sabotaging adult relationships?

Barbara: In the Chapter of the book, “Codependency-Take Two” I tell of my experience of trying to tell my codependent mother what the term means. I tried using phases such as, “too dependent on her husband” and “not caring enough about herself.” Finally, I looked at her and said softly, “Mom, it just means that you cared so much for Daddy that somewhere along the way you lost yourself.” Yes, most likely a tendency toward codependent behavior begins in childhood; I know mine did! I still struggle with issues of “always putting others before myself”-which is a good working definition of the word.

Tyler: What are some of the methods or activities you would suggest to help a person overcome codependency?

Barbara: I like author and counselor Robert Subby’s view of codependence: “Codependency is… the force that holds us back from self-actualization, keeps us living out someone else’s life script.” This definition says it all. Sometimes we cannot put into words exactly why we feel so dependent upon others; it is like a force. This force keeps us from living our own dreams, our own path. We literally allow ourselves to be a player in someone or anyone’s life script while negating our own play. To guide clients with codependent tendencies, I help them begin to feel more in control of their decisions, starting with small ones and moving on to more important choices for themselves. I direct them to love themselves, to treat themselves as if they were the people from whom they desired love and attention. Self-nurturing and self-love are the beginning steps toward releasing codependent behavior. When we learn to love ourselves, we can learn how to ask for what we need from others.

Tyler: “Gifts From the Child Within” is a workbook. Why is a workbook helpful as a supplement to therapy or a twelve-step meeting?

Barbara: I wrote this book in a “workbook” format because while working with clients I used many techniques and methods that require notepaper and pads, crayons and pens, journals, craft and art supplies, CDs and cassette tapes, and other items used for self-awareness and rituals. Within the book the reader can find Exercises, Affirmations, Visualizations, Child Within Autohypnoses, suggested reading, writing, and audio practices. I wanted the reader of this book to experience as much as possible the types of healing methods my private clients were exposed to.

Tyler: Can people then benefit from using the workbook by itself, or do you recommend they use it in conjunction with some form of personal counseling?

Barbara:”Gifts From the Child Within” can be used independently as a workbook for healing and recovery from any traumatic event whether in childhood or the recent past such as in post traumatic stress issues. I do believe having a counselor to help guide one through any trauma to be of value; this book can easily be used as a tool in combination with professional direction.

Tyler: In “Gifts from the Child Within,” you outline seven key steps in the process of inner child therapy. Will you tell us a little more about that process and why it is important?

Barbara: Re-Creation therapy contains these healing steps:

Acknowledgment of a situation, event, or emotion which may stem from childhood

Self-awareness in relation to your past childhood trauma

Meeting your child within-perhaps for the first time-the inner spiritual or true Self

Emotional release exercises relating to the childhood trauma

The Re-Creation Process of re-creating or re-framing the traumatic event(s)

Allowing a sense of forgiveness to enter where possible

Letting go of the past-giving the emotion of past experiences over to a Higher Power

Tyler: Barbara, I mentioned you are a certified clinical hypnotherapist. Do you use hypnotism to help people remember past childhood experiences?

Barbara: I feel it important to note that hypnosis is just one of the many techniques I have utilized in my counseling practice. “Gifts From the Child Within” is certainly based on the use of autohypnosis or self-hypnosis and works successfully in obtaining a more clear remembrance of any past experience. All of my clients have had some memory of their negative trauma, whether through a visual or auditory recollection. Hypnosis cannot make a person remember an event that has not occurred.

Tyler: Barbara, there are lots of helpful books out there for people recovering from childhood trauma or addiction. What sets “Gifts From the Child Within” apart from all the other self-help books available?

Barbara: I believe the fact that this book can be used alone or in conjunction with therapy is a big plus. I have had many professional counselors ask for details on how they might use this workbook for their clients. My use of real personal stories from my clients’ experiences is also an added factor in helping readers identify their circumstances and/or woundedness with those found in the book. It is a book that introduces a transpersonal aspect or spiritual element to the recovery arena that is not found in most self-help books. In my Afterword, I discuss my research doctoral thesis surrounding the use of transpersonal or psychospiritual methodologies when used in women who have experienced childhood abuse/incest. The type of counseling techniques used in this book were found “to be advantageous to the survivor’s recovery process.” In this light, “Gifts From the Child Within” brings a unique sense of support and healing to its reader while at the same time instructs taking the challenge to begin the recovery journey.

Tyler: Barbara, will you tell us a little more about what you mean when you talk about transpersonal or psychospiritual methodologies?

Barbara: I use these terms interchangeably. In my book “Beyond Words: A Lexicon of Metaphysical Thought” I define transpersonal as having “…. two parts, trans meaning across, beyond, or to change completely; and personal, pertaining to the personal or personality. Transpersonal is thus defined as beyond the person, or to change and reach across the personal awareness and individual ego. This interpretation fosters the ability to grasp the total personhood (mind, body, and spiritual nature) to reach beyond our familiar level of ego awareness to a critical examination of behaviors, thoughts, and emotions which spur conscious transformation.”

Therefore, the methods used with this type of therapy (Transpersonal Counseling Psychology) are formed around the entire person, including the attempt to capture the ever-changing aspects of human growth patterns. The ultimate goal of transpersonal counseling is to guide one through the act of conscious self-transformation to a state of trust, faith, acceptance of self and others, and to generate self-esteem and self-love.

Tyler: Barbara, you’ve also used some of your own personal experiences as examples in the book. What made you decide to take this courageous step and reveal so much of yourself?

Barbara: Well, I remember talking to many people during my early counseling days who wanted to tell someone about their horrible childhood experiences and how they felt it had affected their life but felt they could not trust a therapist because “they would not understand” what they had gone through. Because I do understand, I found it an honor to share my own childhood trauma with those who had the courage to begin sharing their stories with me.

Tyler: Barbara, I understand this release of the book is actually its second edition. Are there any differences to the book from the first edition? Would readers of the first edition benefit from reading the second edition?

Barbara: Yes, this is the second edition-the book was initially published in 1993, during the wave of inner child therapies, lectures, and books by Charles Whitfield, John Bradshaw, and many others. This new edition has been updated in its text, a new Afterword has been added which underscores my doctoral research, and an index which helps the reader find specific topics more easily.

Tyler: Barbara, what sort of response have you gotten to the book so far, either in the first or this second Edition, from counselors or readers in general?

Barbara: A very positive Review was received by my publisher from Paige Lovitt of the “Reader Views” last month. It can be found on my website at this time. I have received hundreds of emails and letters over the years from readers expressing their appreciation of this book. I am amazed at just how much my work in the childhood abuse and incest area has touched so many and I am honored that my book has been a positive piece in their healing and recovery puzzle.

Tyler: Thank you, Barbara, for joining me today. Before we go, will you give our readers your website address and let them know what further information can be found there about “Gifts From the Child Within”?

Barbara: Of course, my web site is: DrSinor.com Also, my email address is: [email protected]

On my web site is a new posting for a “Call for Stories” for the research I am currently conducting for my book “Tales of Addiction.” Also, you can read the latest book reviews for all my books, book chapter excerpts, and a special page just for those on their journey to recovery.

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank my publisher, Victor at Loving Healing Press, for making sure this valuable book made it into this new Second Edition.

Tyler: Thank you, Barbara. I hope “Gifts from the Child Within” helps many people.

Did You Get the Hidden Parenting Message in Finding Nemo?

In the movie, Finding Nemo, Nemo’s father, Marlyn asks the sea turtle, “Dude, how do you know when they are ready?”

This is an interesting question that many parents would like to know. How DO you know when your children are ready to take on tasks for themselves? The only way to know if your children are ready for something is to test them. In the movie you may remember Nemo being in the fish tank and becoming stuck in the air tube, all of the other fish wanted to rescue Nemo from a certain death. All except Gil. Gil could see that Nemo was perfectly capable of getting out of the tube for himself. Nemo on the other hand was told his entire life by his father that he couldn’t swim well because he had a bad fin. Nemo promptly relayed this message to Gil. Yet Gil didn’t buy it. He could see that Nemo could indeed save himself and he told him so. So what could Nemo do? Nothing. Nothing that is except perform. He had to save himself because he had no other choice. He had to get out of the air tube himself or he would die. When put to the test by Gil, Nemo passed with flying colors. He got himself out of the air tube and quickly realized that he COULD do it himself. Gil instantly gave Nemo the gift of self-accomplishment and confidence that his father had unintentionally robbed Nemo of his entire life.

Children often tell their parents that they can’t perform certain tasks because children know that their parents will bail them out. Someone is always selling and someone is always buying. When your children are selling you on what they can’t do, are you buying? Or do you sell them on what they CAN do?

As parents we must realize that our children need to be tested in order to grow. We must allow them to fail on the little things and be there to pick them up when they fall. This is how they learn. This is how they grow.

Nemo’s Father Taught us Failure is Necessary for Success!

I think the way you know they are ready is to train them to do a task and then teach them why it is important to be able to do it themselves and then turn them lose and allow them some room to fail. That’s right, I said fail. My father once told me that failure was necessary for success. “Don’t worry about failure,” he said, “just make sure you fail forward.”

In order for children to develop properly we must allow them room to grow and not do everything for them. Anything you do for your children that they can do for themselves will cripple them. I find it interesting that Nemo had a crippled fin and wonder if he was crippled because his father never allowed him to swim very far from home because of the dangers of the ocean. Nemo’s father was so overprotective of him that he didn’t give him the skills necessary to develop confidence and the life skills he needed to deal with the dangers of the ocean.

This is the type of parenting that creates children that never learn to get themselves out of a jam. These children become very dependent on others to bail them out of every situation. These children grow into dependent adults. Not only do they become extremely dependent on others, they have very little confidence in themselves and their own abilities and often lead a chaotic life.

It is difficult to know when we are being too protective of our children and to know when we must step in and rescue them. I suggest that parents not only train their children how to do something but also give them the “why” behind the training so they instill it in their mind. We must train AND teach them about the world so they can learn to make good decisions when we are not there to bail them out.

Nemo continued…Are You too Protective? If so, what can you do?

When you watch the movie, Finding Nemo, you will notice that Nemo’s father protected him from anything that might be potentially dangerous. In doing so, he never taught little Nemo how to deal with the dangers he might face in the world. This would be like never allowing our children to cross the street unless we were with them because a car may hit them. At some point we must train them how to do it and then teach them why it is important to follow this training. Then we simply must trust them enough to allow them to try it on their own.

Perhaps you have been overprotecting your children. How can you change? First ask yourself. Can he do this himself? Is he at the point he can be trained how to do this? Why should he do this himself? This is the only hope of giving your children confidence in their own abilities and making them independent of you. After all, your job as a parent is to teach your children to be independent of you, not dependent on you!

Making the Best Out of Your Friends For Dating Purposes

Life calls for the use of each available means and mechanism for sustainability. You might borrow a leaf from this act of using any necessary means to maximize ones chances of dating and minimize the risks of having a life characterized by lack of the right person to change your life. Imagine living each and everyday of your adult life alone. You are without a better half to share the joys of everyday and the sweetness of each passing union.

It is not right to live alone when you are past the age of twenty five, it does not augur well with the scheme of things. It also doesn’t mean that you marry, which is also a good thing when it lasts. The idea is that the human is not designed to live alone as we might want to believe. If you are an observant person, you might have realized everything we do under the sun is about dating relationships and satisfaction of our life.

There is no human life which is complete without a soul mate or that person to share the cost of our emotions and passions with. Conjugal issues and the satisfaction of sexual intercourse cannot be underestimated. Mostly when you are enjoying it with a person you are sharing a dating relationship. There is nothing compared to it. You will have a person to love and you get loved in return. This will be a person to share with every sweet and bitter thing of life as well as someone to quarrel with when the going gets tough.

Finding that person to share all the dimensions of life, from dating to romantic excursions with is a hard thing if you have no idea where to check. Nevertheless, if you do, you will be one of the happiest people around. Your life would automatically have some meaning. The best place to check for persons to begin dating is through your friends. You might not be one of the most courageous guys. Your friends will do everything for you. It is not as easy as approaching some girl and saying how much you want to have a relationship with them.

Rather than wait for your friends to carry out matchmaking tactics for you, take the game to them. During their dating excursions, they might have come with some girls or men and you might have been introduced to them. This is the population to attack. They are people who know you and taking the friendship a notch higher is very easy. You can also go for the relations of your friends, those you already know during your interaction with the friends.

There are some cute girls you must have seen or available men you know. Make use of every friend you have in your intimate networking exercise. You will not regret it. You will find how easier it is to start dating the friends of your friends and how it can easily bring about positive romantic vibrations in your life.

Naturist Holidays at Port Leucate, France

Have you ever had a slightly disturbing dream that you found yourself nude in a public place, such as in a street, on a bicycle, in a shop or on public transport? If so, what happened in your dream? Did you wonder how you got yourself in that situation, were you embarrassed or did you think that it’s only a dream so it doesn’t matter?

If you have had such dreams, and you haven’t already practised naturism, perhaps it would appeal to you.

Every year, thousands of families spend their holidays between April and October in one of the naturist villages which lie between the ancient Mediterranean town of Leucate and the seaside resort and yacht harbour of Port Leucate.

The villages are mostly traffic free, but you can walk around or cycle like everyone else completely naked. There is a small shopping centre with a very good baker where you can buy fresh croissants, bread etc., you can shop in the supermarket, buy from the butcher, wine shop or newspaper shop and have a drink or a meal in one of the small restaurants, all while staying nude.

These villages, which include Aphrodite and Oasis, were established following a tourist commission set up by President Charles de Gaulle in the 1960’s. The government were looking for a way to entice thousands of holiday makers to stay in France rather than heading down into Spain looking for a beach holiday destination.

The old town of Leucate lies between the Mediterranean Sea and a large saltwater lagoon. South of the town there is a narrow strip of land several kilometres long between the sea and the lagoon. Six kilometres to the south was an old settlement and it was here that the commission proposed establishing a new development called Port Leucate with a yacht harbour, shopping centre and holiday accommodation. Work started in the mid 1960’s and de Gaulle visited the work in progress in 1967. Following his visit, the commission was asked to address the future of the beautiful stretch of beach just to the north of the new resort of Port Leucate.

At that time there was a growing practice and tolerance for naturism in France and there were already various naturist destinations including a large naturist holiday complex at Montalivet on the Atlantic coast north of Bordeaux.

The strip of beach being studied has the Mediterranean Sea on one side and the Leucate lagoon on the other and is virtually an island as there are two channels to the north and south linking the sea with the lagoon. It was therefore decided that this would be an ideal location to develop a naturist beach resort with access restricted to the residents and holiday makers.

Rather than create just a camp site with mobile homes and camping spots, it was decided to create a real village with houses, apartments, tennis courts, swimming pools and a shopping centre. Plans were drawn up and work started in 1973. The years have passed and development has continued and today there are a total of 8 small villages, all next to each other, which border either the beach or the lagoon. Many properties have permanent residents but most are made available by the owners for naturist holiday lettings. Most areas are pedestrian only so children can play, run around or cycle without danger.

At certain times of the year quite strong winds blow through the area and so the area has developed as one of the most popular areas for wind and kite surfing.

One of the advantages of the area, which makes it perfect for family holidays, is the range of other activities within a short distance of the naturist villages. Less than 10 minutes away by car there is a large aquatic centre with several swimming pools and giant slides. There is also an adventure centre in a nearby pine forest where people of all ages can climb and slide through the trees. Also nearby is a casino and new cinema complex. The Pyrenees can be seen from the village and from the autumn to spring snow can be seen on the highest peaks. Being on the doorstep of the Pyrenees, there are of course walks through magnificent countryside to undertake.

About 35 minutes drive away there is the large Sigean African reserve, fascinating for both adults and children. One part can only be visited by car as there are many animals in their natural surroundings, including lions. Then there is another part which can be visited on foot which includes much bird life, monkeys, antelope, elephant and many other types of creatures.

This area is one of the sunniest in France so of course one of the most popular activities is just relaxing on the beach right next to the holiday apartments and perhaps having a little siesta dreaming about being naked in public.

If you want to know more about the naturist villages go to http://www.naturistholidays.fr

Golden Tips for Your Teen’s Safe Online/Offline Activities

You’ve to install a powerful parental app that could easily control your teen’s device including access and usage of online/offline websites, apps, and games. That’s the bottom line.

With the ever increasing technology, Hi-Fi techs, 3d games, and online access is now so easy to kids, teens, and youngsters that the need of Monitoring and Tracking is a must for almost every parent out there. Many threats could hinder your teen’s way,

Online and Offline Dangers for Kids

1. Inappropriate content online

2. Adult sites

3. Banned commercials and sites

4. Immoral and unethical things on the internet

5. Suicidal games and terrorist threats online

& Bullying, scams, Fraud and much other hazardous issues that could mislead, misguide and harm your kids and teens.

Smart Kids-how to monitor them?

It is a matter of grave danger that owing to the generation gap; parents are sometime unable to really have clarity in understanding what’s going on with their teens and kids. They can’t beat the technology and the cell phones and tablets these kids have- So, if a parent would want to check his or her kid, the smart kid can easily minimize the harmful website or close the app in the blink of a second. THEREFORE, the need for an app which can control your kid’s phone through your device is essential and vital for every parent to have.

There are many such apps in the market. We will discuss them one by one, their pros and cons.

Best parental Control Apps in the market

#FamilyTime

My top of the list is familyTime. I’d give it a 5 star as it has all the required features to monitor your kids. It has geo-fence to keep track of your kid’s location, daily screen time limit, family map, family pause and funtime and timebank features. You can control your kid’s device with a single tap.

#Qustodio

This app has fewer advantages as compared to other apps. Too many bugs and lesser features make it an app to PASS. I would give it a 3 star.

#Norton

Nortron is the oldest parental control app in the market. It is a good app with many nice features. However, some new apps have replaced it with new features and much more customized parental control app.

Parental-dash board on a parent’s device

It is like your control room. A web-based dashboard will be loaded once you install the app. You can control your kid’s app usage, see the location, restrict his timings, set screen time limit, daily time limit and have a sound sleep knowing that your teens are safe and happy.

Incidental Teaching For Students With High Functioning Autism

“Incidental Teaching” is an interaction between an adult and child that occurs in a natural situation or setting which can be used to give the child an opportunity to practice a skill. Many practitioners of Applied Behavior Analysis believe that Incidental Teaching can be used as a primary teaching approach for children with autism instead of Discrete Trial teaching when discrete trials are not successful or not challenging.Some students are more successful when incidental teaching techniques are used.

The advantages of using the Incidental Teaching method:

* Skills may be learned faster because they have meaning to the learner (function and purpose).

* The learner is exposed to varied prompting methods and reinforcers

* Teaching is implemented in a natural setting and no additional materials are needed.

* Using this technique helps teachers sharpen their skills and “think on their feet”.

The disadvantages of using the Incidental Teaching method are:

* The teacher may not have the skills to recognize a “teachable moment” or have the ability to capture and manipulate the learner’s motivation to create a teachable moment.

* The teacher must have full knowledge of the learner’s current abilities

* The learner must have prerequisite skills to benefit from Incidental Teaching (including attention skills and ability to accept different types of prompting).

The procedures used in the Incidental Teaching method are important. A natural environment must be arranged to attract the learner to the desired material (contriving an opportunity).

Depending on the learner, the arrangement of the environment may be minimal or extensive. The learner guides the session by his/her own interests or motivation in a topic, object or activity. At this point, the teacher uses whatever the learner has shown an interest in to teach or elaborate on an already known skill. For example, if a young child shows an interest in pushing a toy car back and forth, the teacher could teach the child to elaborate on this skill by showing the child a ramp and how to push the car up and over the ramp.

There are several prerequisite skills for learners that are needed for Incidental Teaching:

* Attention

* Ability to follow basic instructions

* Ability to respond to many different prompting methods

* Well-developed imitation skills

* Adequate frustration tolerance and acceptance of delayed gratification

* Interest in many different environmental stimuli

Incidental Teaching may be used to teach functional communication skills. Here are some tips and suggestions to facilitate communication:

Tips for teaching commenting skills:

* Pretend to call or mildly hurt yourself (Say “owww”)

* Say something that is incorrect and prompt the correction. For example, eat a cookie and say “This is a good apple”.

* Illicit a compliment: Say “I just got a new haircut” or “This is a new shirt”.

* Illicit inquiries: Say “I feel sick today” or “I have a new toy in my bag”.

* Have many people make comments about an activity you are all playing or a meal you are all eating (modeling).

Tips for teaching appropriate escape/avoidance from an undesirable activity:

* Put an unwanted or undesirable item in front of or with the learner.

* Offer unwanted or undesirable food to the learner.

Tips for teaching requests for information:

* Present the learner with partial information he/she needs in order to complete a task or gain access to a reinforcer/desired object

* Present important information in a very low voice so the learner can barely hear you and needs you to repeat the information

With creativity and flexibility, educators can incorporate Incidental Teaching into a successful, nurturing learning environment.