Weight Loss Camps For Teens

Weight-loss camps allow kids to succeed and lose weight by supporting them and boosting their self-esteem without the modern day distractions of television, video games or the computer. This allows campers to build friendships between each other and foster long term meaningful relationships with their piers. The camp supervisors ought to reinforce a positive image in a constructive environment for its campers

New Environment

At weight loss camp your teen will be in a new environment. One that encourages physical activity and healthy food choices. Your teen will find it easier to make healthy choices at weight loss camp simply because there are no temptations like fast food or entire days that may be spent in front of the television. This new environment helps your teen see how much fun it can be to be active and that “healthy” food can actually taste really good!

Support System

Another benefit of weight loss camp for your teen is that everyone else at the camp is going through the same experiences. This creates an immediate support group and campers will be able to help and learn from one another. Campers will realize they are not alone and that there are many other teens out there just like them. This realization alone is huge because many overweight teens feel like they are different from everyone else. Realizing that they aren’t is a huge step in the right direction.

New Lifestyle

At camp, teens will learn a completely new lifestyle that they can apply on their own once they return home. They will learn that their emotional and physical state is directly related to what food they put in their body and how much exercise they get. Teens realize they have control over their bodies and what goes in it.

No Teasing

Overweight teens are frequently taunted and teased, so much that it can cause some teens to suffer emotionally and mentally. At camp, however, there is no teasing or taunting because all the kids are in the same boat. This respite allows teens to create real friendships and not worry what others think of them. This assists in teens developing the self confidence they need to take control of their life and their weight.

New Activities

Teens at weight lose camp will be exposed to many new activities that will help them develop an interest in getting active. Rock climbing, nature trails, and even group sports like soccer and volleyball are played. This allows teens to engage in sports and learn how much fun they can be! Showing teens what they are capable of despite being overweight will create a new sense of self and teens will be eager to explore other activities they might not have dared before because they were “too fat.” This is a safe environment for overweight teens to explore everything the world has to offer and find physical activities they enjoy and can incorporate in their lives.

Learn To Snowboard This Winter And Have Fun

Are you a good skier? Why I am asking this is because experienced skiers are people who love being outside in the colder months. Skiers can spend hours on a hill and enjoy the brisk air. For them they may want to consider another sport that is just as invigorating and thrilling.

You can learn to snowboard without too much difficulty if you are already a brilliant skier. You may think that this sport is just for the younger set. It’s true that a lot of teenagers and young adults in their twenties are crazy about snowboarding, but you can learn to snowboard even in your forties or fifties. The main requirements are a spirit of adventure and a great sense of balance.

You can get the knowledge you need to be successful on the slopes through many different ways. The Internet is a never-ending source for how to information and this is true of snowboarding as well. You will get a good understanding of the basics required to be a good snowboarder even though you aren’t going to get the hands-on experience by reading a website. It’s a wise idea to peruse a few of these types of websites to get some basic pieces of advice before you take a real class.

In outdoor sports, most ski clubs now offer different types of lessons. Not only can you sign up for beginner ski lessons, but you can also learn to snowboard from a professional instructor. You may feel self-conscious about taking a class If you’re a bit more mature than the other students.

You can always learn to snowboard through private lessons if that’s the case. The extra personal instruction is worth the higher cost you will pay than the price of a traditional class.

It’s important to feel comfortable with the board itself before you actually attempt to snowboard. It would be a good idea to rent a board before purchasing one. This alternative will allow you to see if you feel at ease being on a board, as opposed to skis. It’s certainly similar, but there are also a lot of differences when a skier wants to learn to snowboard. If you’ve just rented a board, you’re not going to lose too much money if you decide that it’s not for you.

Try a simple run once you feel confident and you’re ready to give it a go. Many people want to impress everyone when they try a new sport, particularly those who view themselves as sports pros. When you are learning to snowboard, you do need to be wary of how steep or sophisticated a run you take on is, as injuries can be catastrophic. Slow but steady is definitely the safest way to go, and you can hit the killer hills in no time at all once you’ve mastered the bunny trail. So while learning this new sport be cautious and you will enjoy it for years to come.

Stretch Your Brain!

Once we stretch our brain to accommodate larger thinking, we can never shrink our brain back to smaller thinking. This is sort of like when our big brother or sister borrows our smaller shirt. They inevitably stretch our shirt out when they wear it and our shirt becomes too big for our smaller stature. Now our old shirt just looks and feels wrong on us. In these instances we tend to get mad at our bigger brother or sister when they stretch out our clothes, right?

Well, when our big sibling or maybe even our big mentor, who all have much bigger thinking than we do, stretches out our mind and helps create the brain capacity for us to think larger thoughts; well then, just like that shirt mentioned above, our brain too ends up feeling wrong for our old smaller stature. Smile this time though, because this time the stretching out is a good thing!

You see, we really want someone to help us stretch out our younger, crisper, barely worn mind. Once our mind has been stretched we have become truly blessed. Nobody can make us go back into our old smaller shell of smaller thinking and limited ways of looking at this world.

It’s sort of like when someone squeezes the toothpaste out of the toothpaste tube… there isn’t any way anybody is getting that toothpaste back into the tube no matter how hard they try to force it. And once our brain has been stretched to accommodate larger thinking there isn’t any way anybody can force us back into smaller thinking and smaller brain capacity, no matter how hard they try. Smile again, because once again this is a good thing!

Now teens, go learn, lead, and lay the way for a better world for all of us. Remember that once we stretch our brains to accommodate larger thinking, we can never shrink our mind back to smaller thinking. The world truly does mirror our thinking, so let’s think BIG! And once again, thanks in advance for all that you do, and all that you will do…

Determination and Education

My dad would have turned 104 today. That is just amazing to think about – I can barely imagine 1911 in northern Idaho. Sadly my father only lived to be 59 but every year I think about him on this special day. Actually I think of him far more often than that, but his birthday is extra important to me. My dad set a marvelous example for his five daughters and in that way he lives on through us and I hope I am passing some of his excellent characteristics on to my children and grandchildren.

While there are many, the two finest traits of my dad were his determination to accomplish whatever he decided to do and his strong belief in the value of education. The first trait led him to some problems, as you can imagine, as he was far sighted and could visualize the possibilities long before they occurred to others. He planned ahead and prepared for the future while others were content to dawdle along in the present. Yes, he enjoyed the present but with foresight of what would come next.

In his younger years he spent summers out lumberjacking with my grandfather and so he knew how to work hard and how to create. He and Grandpa built our log cabin, completing it in 1939. It has served my family well all of these years. My dad was an educator, having taught or held administrative positions in schools for almost 40 years. In education he taught math which he loved and during his first years he also taught everything else: English, physical education, history, and science. That is one example of his determination. Yes, he had the background knowledge to teach all of these subjects and the diligence to make sure he was fully prepared for every lesson and the needs of every student.

My dad recognized educational possibilities in every situation. When we traveled we played word and number games, studied and memorized license plates to identify the counties from which they came, stopped at parks and historical sites to gather more knowledge, and then at the end of the day, rounded it up with a short daily exam. For birthday and Christmas I always received educational gifts. One year we built geometric configurations with pegboards and colored string and study the flow and mathematical rhythm of each. Another year we completed multiple algebraic questions concentrating on formulas and checking with proofs. Some years we read and evaluated authors and text. When we skied we engaged in math such as dividing the number of runs into the price of the ticket to determine price per run. We then stretched that by adding meals, gas, snacks, and so forth to complicate the mathematical problem and process and then decided on what it took to have a good deal. Had we factored in the fun we had, every trip would have been a tremendous bargain.

When we stayed at our cabin we always had projects to complete such as building a dock or painting the boat or filling in potholes in our forest road along with chopping wood, cooking and cleaning, and plenty of fishing and   swimming . We would work together to establish our calendar of events, carefully balancing work and play with the number of days we had. No one ever left our vacation anything but exhausted, and yet happy as we planned our next outing there.

Now you may be wondering about all of this physical and brain work, and so I must tell you my life was (and is) fantastic. My dad taught me to love hard work, to think and analyze problems and situations, to advance my brainpower in lots of ways, to explore and dream, and even though filled with drive and determination to accomplish a million things, to be happy. I am and I thank him.

Family Holiday on the Island of Korcula, Croatia

The stunning island of Korcula on Croatia’s Dalmatian coast is a fantastic destination for a family European holiday. Korcula is easily reachable from Split or Dubrovnik airport and 2012 sees a rapid increase in the number of airliners flying to these destinations. This news means more choice in flight times and cheaper ticket prices, both important considerations when planning a family holiday.

Korcula provides a great choice for family holiday accommodation, suiting all budgets, from campsites to large secluded villas with swimming pools. Self-catering is a good option for family groups and there are many affordable apartments and houses available to rent on the island. Practically self-catering gives families more flexibility when it comes to meal times, more space than a standard hotel room and privacy to come and go as you please throughout the day. Favourite choices on Korcula include a large rustic-style house in a beautiful bay close to the village of Pupnat, allowing the whole family to relax and enjoy the natural surroundings; a luxurious and cosy villa in Racisce with lots of modern conveniences and plenty of internal and external space, so every family member has their own breathing space; and good value modern apartments with a large open plan kitchen, dining and living area, close to the sea in the family-friendly town of Lumbarda.

Although all the towns and villages on Korcula provide ideal bases for a family holiday, Lumbarda is probably one of the best options if travelling with younger children. Lumbarda is less busy than Korcula Town, whilst still having plenty of restaurants, cafes and entertainment options; it has shallow sandy beaches, whereas most on the island are pebbled and the water can become suddenly deep and everything is in easy walking distance. During the summer the tourist board of Lumbarda puts on a number of family events, a personal favourite being the donkey race (suitable for children and adults!). There are also fantastic ally fun water inflatables to slip, slide and jump all over at Bili Zal beach in Lumbarda.

Of course most activities around Korcula take place at the beach or on the sea. Keeping the children entertained can sometimes be a challenge but get them active in the water by snorkelling, swimming or kayaking. Beach games such as volleyball, bat and ball games or good old fashioned sand-castle building at the sandy beaches are enjoyable ways to spend the time in the sun. Just make sure you slap on lots of suntan lotion and stay out of the strong midday sun. Fun days on Korcula can include boat trips to the nearby Skoji islets, scrambling up and under the strange but intriguing rocks at the natural park of Kocije in Zrnovo or how about taking a bicycle ride along the stunning coast, treating your-self to a scoop or two of Korcula’s delicious ice cream.

After a day at the beach or pedalling around the beautiful Korcula countryside, there is nothing nicer than returining to your self-contained holiday accommodation, perhaps grilling up some fresh fish or playing a game of cards out on the terrace, watching the sun gently set. It is these moments when you truly appreciate the family holiday.

Croatia is fast becoming one of the most popular places to take a vacation in Europe and is a more affordable option compared to its rivals in the Euro-zone. It is a safe country with relatively little crime and the people welcoming and hospitable. This makes a wonderful country to spend you family holiday this year.

Obesity in America: What You Can Do To Save Your Children

Outrageous portion sizes, frequent drive through meals, increased snacking, less walking or biking to school, and less opportunity to participate in gym class or recess are all factors contributing to weight gain. To get control of this issue, parents must become role models for their children in leading a healthy lifestyle. Parents should take computers, TVs, and video games out of the bedroom and limit all screen time to 1 hour after school (adolescents are currently spending an average of 7.5 hrs a day behind some type of screen). Offer only milk, water, or low to no-calorie beverages with meals and snacks. Sodas, juice, and even sports drinks are filled with empty calories and loads of sugar. Limit fast food to a once a month “treat,” and take advantage of newly offered nutritious side options such as fruit instead of fries. And just like adults, kids need 30- 60 minutes of daily physical activity. Make it a family effort and take a walk after dinner, go roller-blading,   swimming , or play catch in the yard.

Let’s Move! is an initiative launched by the First Lady Michelle Obama which focuses on five goals: to arm parents with information to support healthy choices at home, make sure that every child has access to healthy affordable food, help kids to become more physically active, and provide healthier food choices at school. In accordance with the initiative, President Barack Obama signed a Presidential Memorandum creating the first-ever Task Force on Childhood Obesity to develop a national action plan and maximize federal resources to achieve those five goals.

The Dietary Guidelines for Americans, 2010, were released by the USDA and emphasize three major goals for Americans:

• Balance calories with physical activity to manage weight

• Consume more of certain foods and nutrients such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, fat-free and low-fat dairy products, and seafood

• Consume fewer foods with sodium (salt), saturated fats, trans fats, cholesterol, added sugars, and refined grains

The Guidelines also include 23 key recommendations for the general population. To help achieve these goals, the USDA has implemented an interactive user-friendly website (choosemyplate.gov) to help consumers identify what they’re eating now and what changes can be made to decrease portion sizes, eat and drink fewer empty calories, and focus on nutrient dense foods the body needs for fuel.

There are new fad diets and weight loss pills hitting the market on a daily basis trying to capitalize on consumers looking for a “quick fix” or an “easier” way to lose weight. Weight loss achieved by these methods does not last, and can lead to yo-yo dieting and eventually more weight gain. The only proven weight loss method is by making lasting lifestyle changes, which can be done by making one to two achievable goals each week. Fitness applications for smart phones (such as MyFitnessPal) are helpful for keeping a food and exercise diary on the go. The best resource for nutrition-related advice and counseling is a registered dietitian nutritionist. Make sure your chosen professional has this designation, not just a “certified nutritionist” who can get a certificate online in a matter of weeks.

How To Build Trust In The Workplace

In baseball, football, soccer, someone wins and someone loses. Zero sum games are a way of life in our society. Zero sum games are based on win-lose rules. Someone wins at someone else’s expense.

The win-lose situations pervade our culture. Our courts are based on an adversary system. Political parties strive to win elections.

Win-lose competitions are fun – very fun, especially if you are the winner. They present us with a challenge. As a kid, I hated losing any sporting event or competition I participated in. Frankly, we would compete just as hard for positions even on the same team.

As adults, we may be on the same track, swim, golf or tennis team and still compete to win. In an orchestra, they compete for 1st chair though playing beautifully together.

In organizations, however, where you need to be part of the same team, competition can be unhealthy, destructive and erode trust. Consider its ill-gotten effects.

  • It poisons interpersonal relationships.
  • It destroys organizational effectiveness.
  • It diverts time and energy.
  • It destroys good will.
  • It provokes anger, resentment and retaliation.

In an organization, win-lose eventually becomes lose-lose and impacts just about every aspect of the company, including quality, customer service, revenues and profits. But we are stronger for the challenge. How do we do both: compete and cooperate simultaneously? We might compete initially but at some point to be successful, the project requires us to cooperate.

Here are 10 skills (which can be learned and developed) that will lead to a Win-Win environment in your business and personal relationships:

  1. Listen empathetically
  2. Find out what is important to others
  3. Agree on clear and common goals
  4. Avoid absolute statements
  5. Involve others who are affected
  6. Make consensus or collaborative decisions
  7. Test trade-offs and compromises for agreement
  8. Look for similarities and areas of commonality
  9. Avoid potential win-lose situations or strategies
  10. Think “Our Problem”, not “My Problem” or “Your Problem”

Considering the organization’s culture, another huge impact is on trust. For the purposes of this article, let’s use the following definition for trust: “Confidence in your relationship with others.”

The Positive/Negative Risk Cycle.

All of us have felt vulnerable before sharing an idea or an opinion about something – especially when it might contradict others’ points of view. So let’s suppose you take a risk: share and open yourself up to a friend or colleague. When he/she responds with respect, what happens to your relationship? It is strengthened, and your mutual confidence and trust grow. Your willingness to share more and to take more risks goes up, too – right?

What happens if you “open up” – expose your vulnerabilities – one-day and your friend or colleague does not treat you with respect, and in fact teases you, and tells other people about it? Your confidence will go down and your relationship is weakened. Will you want to share again? Will you take the risk of sharing a different idea?

Do you see how building trust or not having trust in the workplace could impact the success of your company or department? In fact, building trust is absolutely critical to create an environment where high performance can grow.

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Why Are My Bass Skinny?

Do you have a pond with too many, stunted, one-pound bass? If your bass are undersized, this can typically be a sign that there are not enough forage fish, too many bass in the pond, or a combination of both. Too often, pond owners, prescribe to the practice of catch and release, which is more in line with big lake fishing, and not conducive to growing healthy bass in small ponds. Harvest is an important part of pond management that people need to be aware of. Harvest can create a necessary balance between forage fish and predator fish, giving your bass plenty to eat, and with less competition. Bluegill are a great forage fish for your largemouth bass, and with proper management can be the backbone of your bass food chain.

Bluegill can be identified by their round, flat body, and the dark spot on the edge of the gill plate, and at the base of the dorsal spines. The side of the head and chin are a dark shade of blue, they have a yellowish breast and abdomen, and the breast of the breeding male will be a bright orange. Several species of sunfish are commonly referred to as “perch”, but bluegill are most easily identified by the size of their mouth. Even when handling a large bluegill it would be difficult to use your thumb to hold the lip.

Most pond owners will have knowledge of what bluegill look like, but may not know what their spawning behaviors or habitat preferences are. Male bluegill will build spawning nests in shallow water typically in a gravel substrate, and will ferociously defend their territory from other males, invaders, and even nearby swimmers. Females will choose a desirable male, usually larger in size to mate with. The number of eggs produced is closely related to the size of the female. A small female may produce 1,000 eggs, while a large healthy female can produce up to 100,000 eggs, although typically females can lay 10,000 to 50,000. They can also spawn three times per season. If you want to have strong populations of bluegill, you can see why having large adults are so desirable. Bluegill begins spawning in May and continues through August, with a peak during June when the waters are between 67 – 80 degrees.

It would seem that bluegill should have no problem maintaining strong populations when they spawn multiple times a season with as many eggs as they lay, but what happens when your pond does not have appropriate nesting habitat? Unfortunately, most of the reproduction is lost due to poor spawning habitat. Most earthen ponds have 2-12 inches of silt that smothers the eggs soon after they are laid. A popular solution is to add pea gravel to provide a hard bottom for nest building. This can expensive and over time the gravel can be silted over or eroded out of the spawning zone so a pond owner will have to repeat the process. There is also the option of using spawning discs. Spawning disc’s provide a stable, solid surface for bluegill, redear, bass, and crappie to deposit their eggs. Also, other forage fish including fatheads and threadfin shad will use the underside of the disc to attach their eggs. When the fry hatch, they will have a ready supply of algae that will grow around the edges and beneath the disc.

If you want to cure your stunted bass, ensure you have proper numbers of forage fish, especially bluegill. With the right knowledge, you can have a large brood stock and stable reproduction with proper habitat.

Where Can I Buy Olympic Red Mittens?

This is probably one of the top 10 searches here in Canada and the answer is getting tiresome – sold out, sold out, no longer in stock. This is a huge disappointment to many proud Canadians, who are ready to start getting involved in the spirit of the Vancouver winter games in February 2010. We have somehow all fallen in love with the fuzzy red hand cozies, but when we try to buy a pair, we find ourselves unable to find them for sale.

The red mittens are supposed to be available at HBC, Zellers, on Amazon.com and at The Official Vancouver 2010 Store. So we are told, but countless disappointed people have spent many an evening or Saturday afternoon, going from one of these stores to the next, only to be informed everywhere that they are sold out in all of these locations at this point, March 2010.

Obviously, the governing bodies of the Olympic Retail Supply Universe have either gone on vacation or they are as dinosaur like as the government itself, when it comes to adjusting on its feet to a new demand or situation. Of course, we all know that that people in charge of these things are very busy with more important things to think about that whether there is a shortage of red mittens or not. Jeepers though! Why market the mitts until everyone has to have a pair if you don’t have a proper supply to distribute? They have been sold out since around mid Oct, so why did they not order more at that point? Ah, we’ll never understand these processes!

Millions of Canadians and millions of other nationalities around the world want their red mittens and they would like to have them right now. They want them for Christmas & other holiday gifts, for the patriotism that they want to express, for the trendy fashion accessory to wear at all the events of the Olympics, for the photo ops, the family Christmas card pics and so on.

What on earth is going on? Where are all the mittens?

Right now, you can find a pair of 2010 mitts at on-line red mitten stores in Canada & US. You will have to pay more than the $10 original price that was being charged at the retail outlets. Everyday, more of these private listings get posted, some are even being sold by a relay torch bearer! I would absolutely not part with my red mitts if I had worn them to carry the Olympic Flame! With the demand increasing and the supply dwindling, I wonder just how high the bidding will eventually go. Right now they are selling for $14 – $25 dollars CDN on eBay auctions, but at least we can get a pair.

Here is my wish – that someone at VanOC & the COC would try really really hard to get more mitts, so that everyone who wanted them could actually have a pair. Can it really be that difficult?

Author D. Lennox

Parenting Pitfalls to Avoid with Compassionate-Child Parenting

The process of learning parenting is rough on the first born. Inexperienced parents can have the best intentions and still make mistakes that have long range negative impact on their children. Child-Compassionate Parenting adheres to developmental stages and provides for the healthy personality to develop while maintaining parental control and reason. Here are ten parenting pitfalls to avoid.

1. ARGUING IN FRONT OF THE CHILD

Irritation and exhaustion make parents more volatile. Complaining and bickering may relieve some built up pressure but these anger embers can explode into a yelling fight. Young toddlers can be so alarmed that they may have accidents or get ill when their parents become angry. Screaming and anger were part of a survival reaction when the mother deemed an intruder was life threatening. There is no excuse for putting this much stress on a child. Discuss adult issues and disagreements in civil and polite tones. The person who is yelling is trying to win an argument by acting violent and that is unfair fighting.

2. SENSORY OVERLOAD

The body can handle millions of bits of information intake but then it needs a break. The noise level of children, their television programs, appliances, pets and phones can leave a parent confused and stressed. A fifteen minute walk, with only the sound of the birds, can do wonders for your psyche. When the child is safely in his or her stroller and you are away from unimportant urgency, telephones and chaos, then you can process and relax. A slow stroll without any other purpose than to “Listen to the song of life,” as Katherine Hepburn often said. At home, if your child is clearly in sight, make a cup of hot green tea and sip it slowly wearing earplugs. The combination of antioxidants and silence is healing. Sound is a necessary warning signal, so mini breaks only.

3. NO NO’S

As a child ages they can learn from other peoples mistakes, but toddlers want to experience everything for themselves. Eliminate the possibilities for disaster rather than spend the precious time you have with your child saying, “No” so many times that the child becomes immune to the word. Save “No!’ for dangerous moments that could be life threatening. You want that word to stop them in their tracks so do not over use it on meaningless control issues. If the child is drawn to Grandma’s colorful vase, put the vase away and replace it with a plastic object or stuffed animal. Let the child explore, touch and occasionally taste the room’s objects until they have learned what they need to learn. Usually, the child only makes one pass across everything. Follow the child patiently helping them to explore the breakable items, explaining that this will break so we leave it alone. Then, put the vase up where there is no chance of a mistake. The vase is nothing compared to your child.

4.   SWIM 

Teach your child to  swim . “Drowning is the second leading cause of accidental injury-related death among children ages 1 to 14 and the leading cause of accidental injury-related death among children ages 1 to 4.” (usa.safekids). Even if you are afraid of the water yourself or hate the amount of chlorine your child is exposed to in public pools, teach your child to  swim . Drowning is preventable unlike a car accident or many other accidents. Chlorine is as hard on your lungs as your eyes so insist on better ventilation at  swimming  pools especially an indoor pool with low ceilings. Non-chlorinated disinfectants are available and used in many European pools. But if all you have is the local pool reeking of chlorine, you owe your child a fighting chance to  swim  to safety. Teach your child to  swim  now.

5. VEGANS

Good idea but the human body is complicated and requires B12 and Vitamin D and fish or nut oil good fats that can not be supplied in many limited diets. Feed your child a variety of healthy organic foods as often as possible but do not be too restrictive. We only know a fraction of the intricacies of the chemical reactions in the body and many facts become fiction as science discovers new evidence. Waiting for water in plastic bottles when often municipality water is superior can lead to dehydration and serious complications. Letting a young child feel painful hunger pangs because the food is not perfectly nutritious is counterproductive to good parenting. Sometimes it is O.K. to help the child deal with difficult situations with a full belly of just O.K. food.

6. ASSUME THEY ARE GOOD

See that mischievous glint in your child’s eyes that alerts you to impending trouble? Remember it well so that you recognize it when as teenagers they get that same look when they have an exciting idea. Even as you absolutely know for certain that they are doing something wrong, discipline means teaching. Remind them of the consequence of disobeying you and wait to see what they do. They will weigh the potential pleasure reward of doing what they are thinking versus the severity of your consequence. Typically, they will choose pleasure. Calmly, shake your head and say I asked you to do that and instead you did the other. The consequence will now be this. If you are really clever you will have already pasted the crime and punishment on the refrigerator before it happens so you can say, “See.” Start with very tiny logical consequences, like a minute of time out that matches their age and loss of gadgets and privileges when they are older. Save the big punishment for drug and alcohol use, stealing or not using a condom, much later. Never use big threats or joke with threats. When it is really important they will not know whether you are serious or joking.

7. YOU ARE ON

After a long day of work, a couple just wants to eat, shower and sit down. But who is watching the baby? Never leave a child unattended. You must get a response from the other parent acknowledging that they are on duty before you run to the bathroom or step outside even for a moment. When you are on, you must prioritize your job of protecting your child from harm over a television game, surfing the internet or making dinner. Make a section of a visible room a safe play area that is baby gated and away from obvious danger. Toddlers can stack toys together to make an escape faster than you can get back to your computer chair. Never leave a child in front of a television while you go back to sleep. They can open a door and be in the street so quickly. You use to love to play. Perhaps, you could play with your child joyfully for a while. Some day they will not want you anymore. So relax and enjoy running in the park, puppets and card games again. When they leave for college, you can repaint the house and get new flooring. Tolerate messy toys, spills and other accidents.

8. TRUST BUILDING

Realities of life are extremely harsh. As humans we must suspend the truths of our short existence. Our vulnerable body can die in a few minutes from a cut or a few inches of water. Knowing how to balance protective parenting and fear inducing anxiety is tricky. Teaching the kindness and beauty of the world is more important than teaching the horrific things people do to each other. If you want your child to know Jesus, teach the wisdom of Jesus, not the sadistic brutality of Roman gladiators nailing a man’s hands. If you want your child to love animals visit a zoo, or adopt a pet rather than watching the television footage of a lioness eating the belly of a living deer. You need to stay informed, but the news is also on at ten after the child is asleep. Can you really explain to them why other parents allow their adult children’s bodies to be contaminated and destroyed in wars? Can they believe it won’t happen to them? Protect your children’s hearts and minds at every opportunity until they are in school where they will learn the history of man soon enough.

9. NIGHTY NIGHT

Never use bedtime as a punishment. A child abruptly left in a dark room to sob is abhorrent to experienced parents and anyone who has a heart. Such selfish parental quick fixes will result in long term damage to trust and self esteem. If you must punish a worn out tired child, use time out instead. Then, begin a pleasant nighttime ritual of bath, brushing teeth, p.j.’s, a book, a favorite bear and blanket, a kiss and good night. This ritual will cut down on phobias, nightmares, guilt, anxiety and hysterically crying rejected little children. Bedtime is one of the most loving experiences of parenting that when done correctly results in strong bonding.

10. BUDGET BABYSITTERS

Funds are tight and so many purchases seem important, however, spend money on a babysitter at least once a week. Time alone with your spouse in dating mode will help keep your love alive. Like a delicate flower you must water, feed and care for you living and changing love. Men need attention from their wives and wives need nurturing from their men. Hire a babysitter, grandparent or older teen to play with your child while you spend time with each other as a couple. Go play miniature golf, or bowl or dance, feel young again, carefree and unencumbered for a little while. The best gift you can give your child is a stable, happy home life, not an abundance of things or fancy schools.

Forgive in your heart the struggles of childhood and parent with a compassionate, not critical code of behavior. Parenting is the hardest job you will ever do. Your reward will not be your child thanking you for your sacrifices. Your reward will be the realization that your parenting skills advanced forward as you watch your grown child parent your grandchild with Child-Compassionate Parenting.